Thoughts on Choosing Your Pronouns
I had never decided what pronouns I wanted to use, I figured people would call me whatever they perceived me to be and it didn’t matter.
I had never decided what pronouns I wanted to use, I figured people would call me whatever they perceived me to be and it didn’t matter. I was having a hard time deciding for myself so I put it on others.
But recent homophobic insults thrown at me had made me think about defining myself and not letting others do it. It’s not that those bigots will hear it or even understand it. But I will. It’s about how I feel about myself.
She/Her or He/Him didn’t feel right, but I was always She/Her in the past so I just went with it. This new move to Substack made me think of a fresh start, an opportunity to be more of who I want to be.
So it was time to decide, I am They/Them.
It’s nice to no longer have to try to figure it out, it feels right.
What I've found with the preferred pronoun thing is that it's basically an easy way to find the bigots. They can respect changing a married name or going by a nickname, but some reason they have a problem when you decide to declare your pronouns.
From Tumblr:
"My gender is whatever is funniest at the time."
"So your pronouns are honk/honk?"